You look tired : Faux Pas

I learned something over the weekend. Apparently telling a girl she looks tired is a big NO NO !

Me : “Hey you look tired, like the whole world is weighing down on you, is everything alright?”
Girl: I am fine, thank you for asking. fyi it is not a nice thing to say to a girl.
Me : Oh ok. Will keep that in mind. Sorry. I didn’t know that. I was just expressing concern.
Girl: Its cool.

What the hell just happened? I expressed genuine concern and I am being told that is not a nice thing to say? Scratching my head. A WTF moment.

At work, the next day, I was talking to a bunch of girls and I brought this up. One of the girls told me that a VP also ran into the same thing few days ago. When he was told that it was faux pas, he conducted an impromptu poll of all the guys walking by. It turned out that every guy knew that it was a faux pas. Well most of the guys polled were married anyway. The debate started all over again with the VP, me and the bunch of girls as to why it was wrong and how it was very confusing. An impromptu poll started all over again. It struck me bizarre that an honest concern would get 2 different responses from men and women.

When you express such a concern to a guy, he would reply “yeh, dude been a long day with all the work” or something like “yeh, lots of work, hoping to rest this weekend”. Asking a girl, a serious NO-NO.

Later one of the girls, walked over to me and explained the reason behind it being a NO-NO. An average girl is always conscious about how she looks and is comparing herself to other girls. She is constantly watching out for any signs that would make her appear less than pretty and correct herself. A girl when is tired, she looks the worst and me asking that question, makes her feel worse! <

After that, I never expressed concern like that to a girl.

Converting Vegetarians

It was my first song that I heard of Infected Mushroom. This was years ago. It begins with scratchy and distorted sounds and then takes off! Cities of the future and Becoming Insane are two other great songs.

I almost died

God: Really??
Me: Alright alright, I could have been badly hurt.
God: So says every drama queen.
Me : Hits the ignore button on God.

Within a block distance I got run over by and almost hit by 2 cars. They were both driven by young women. I was crossing the road when it was a green for pedestrians. The girl tried to a make right turn. BAM! I had to do bit of escape dance to escape the car. I didn’t get hurt. The girl had a horrified look. Guess what she also had an earphone that looked just like an Apple Ipod/Iphone/Nano earphone bah!

A block later, same thing happens again!. WTF! WTF!!!!!!!!!! I didn’t yell at the girls, but I did show my displeasure. No, I did not show my middle finger.

The Counter

It is a burger chain. They pride themselves in serving custom burgers. I had a vegie burger with horseradish cheddar cheese,grilled pineapple,sprouts,dried cranberries and black olives on a multigrain bun. It was very tasty. I was very impressed.

Barstow

I stopped at Barstow on one of my random drives. It is a town that has seen better times. It is a town that has major rail traffic going through today. A waitress at Denny’s described it as a welfare town.

The main street has a lot of paintings on walls of buildings. These paintings depict the history of Barstow.

There are 3 museums that are worth visiting.

1) Historic route 66 museum.
2) Railroad museum.
3) Majove River Valley Museum.

The railroad museum was closed so I did not visit it. There are quite few hotels in this town. Highways 40 and 15 intersect here. I-40 begins/ends in Barstow. Route 66 has a lot of history to it. It starts in Santa Monica,CA and goes all the way to Chicago. It runs parallel to I-40. The drive on Route 66 is a bit bumpy as it is an abandoned highway. There are fibre cables buried along route 66. Route 66 was used for migration of people to the west during 1930′s. During World War II, route 66 was used for armed forces to transport troops. When a convoy was driving through all civilians were forced off-road to let the convoy pass. In the later years when the interstate system was established, the decline of Route 66 started.

The drive on I-40 was beautiful during sunset. I crossed into Bullhead, Arizona and turned around to have dinner at Jedro’s Wagon Wheel in Needles,CA. The food was very tasty! The exits along I-40 are quite distant between each other. There are quite a few off-roading opportunities in the Majove desert that is along I-40. High clearance and 4 wheel drive vehicles are recommended. While I doubt 4 wheel drive vehicles are an absolute necessity, I can see the need for high clearance vehicles. The soil when it is wet is very tricky to drive through.

The waitress at Denny’s shared a bit of trivia The strip bar set in which later half of the movie Dawn to Dusk unfolds was built in Dagget. It is a town few miles from Barstow.

V sign

While categorizing pics on my laptop and I noticed that in many pictures folks had their fingers in V sign form. I hadn’t paid attention to this before but it struck me it has become waaayyy too common to an extent it appears meaningless.

God: Sigh! here we go again, drama queen alert!
Me : Dude, you created this drama, so please , the door is that way.
God: I created that door, heh, heh
Me : Time for ignore button, see ya!

I wonder do people even know what they mean by holding up the sign V. You hold up a sign V at a bar when you are drinking with friends, what are you trying to say? Girls pout like fish or duck face in many pics. WTF happened to a smile? Arrrrggggghhhh!!!!! WTF!

If you catch me holding up a V sign without meaning it, slap me will ya!

God: take a take chill pill, you snobbish clown.

What am I doing?

I don’t know. It is a question that I have had for the longest of time. It is also a question that I cannot seem to answer. Every time I believe I have answered it, I immediately get thrown a curve ball and out goes the answer. The search begins again. While I am crystal clear on what I need to do as far my responsibilities and what I like to do to have fun, I still don’t know what I am doing. Maybe someday I will figure it out, maybe I won’t. Perhaps ignorance is bliss indeed.